Pronunciation: [tˈə͡ʊdɪɪŋ] (IPA) 
The word "Toadying" (IPA: /ˈtoʊdiɪŋ/) is spelled with two syllables, "toad" and "ying". The first syllable is pronounced as in the word "toad" (IPA: /toʊd/), and the second syllable is pronounced with a long "e" sound, as in the word "being" (IPA: /ˈbiːɪŋ/). Toadying refers to someone who behaves in a fawning or obsequious manner in order to gain favor or advantage. It can also be used as a verb, meaning to behave in said manner.
Toadying, also known as sycophancy or obsequiousness, refers to the act of excessively flattering or ingratiating oneself to gain favor or attention from someone in a position of power or authority. It involves a subservient and fawning attitude towards a superior, often accompanied by an excessive willingness to comply with their desires or demands.
Someone who engages in toadying behavior is often willing to go to great lengths to please others, even if it means sacrificing their own integrity or principles. This can include flattery, excessive compliments, and over-the-top displays of admiration or loyalty. Toadying individuals may frequently seek opportunities to be in the presence of those they are trying to impress, always aiming to be seen as agreeable and subservient.
Toadying is typically motivated by a desire for personal gain, such as obtaining favors, promotions, or other forms of preferential treatment. It is often frowned upon due to its manipulative nature and lack of authenticity. The person engaging in toadying is seen as insincere, only seeking personal benefit rather than genuinely connecting or building relationships.
The term "toadying" carries a negative connotation, as it implies a lack of self-respect and a willingness to compromise one's values for personal gain. It is considered a form of sycophancy, where flattery prevails over honesty or integrity. Toadying behavior can be found in various social and professional contexts, such as the workplace, politics, or social circles, where individuals may attempt to curry favor with those in positions of power.
Servile flattery; the practice to meanly fawning on another.
Etymological and pronouncing dictionary of the English language. By Stormonth, James, Phelp, P. H. Published 1874.
The word "toadying" derives from the noun "toad". However, the etymology of "toad" itself is uncertain. It is believed to have originated from the Old English word "tade" or "tadige", which is thought to have come from a Celtic language. The term "toading" or "toadying" emerged in the early 19th century as a verb form of "toad", referring to the behavior of a person who flatters or behaves subserviently to someone in a servile manner. The concept of a toad being associated with someone who is obsequious or sycophantic likely evolved due to the negative connotations associated with toads in folklore and mythology.
