The word "selftender" is spelled as /ˈsɛlfˌtɛndər/. The first syllable, "self", is pronounced with a short "e" sound (as in the word "elf") and the "f" is silent. The second syllable, "tend", is pronounced with a short "e" sound and the "d" is pronounced as a soft "t" sound. The final syllable, "er", is pronounced with a short "e" sound and the "r" is pronounced clearly. This word refers to someone who gives themselves tender loving care.