Codependency is a term used to describe a psychological condition where an individual excessively relies on another person for emotional support or validation. The spelling of "codependency" is co- (koh) for the cooperating relationship between the two parties, -de (duh) refers to the common aspect of both parties needed to co-operate in the relationship. "-ncy" (N-see) at the end is used to indicate a quality of being dependent. In IPA phonetic transcription, it is written as /koʊdɪˈpɛndənsi/.
Codependency is a psychological and behavioral condition that typically manifests in relationships with others, where one individual excessively relies on another for their own self-esteem and identity. It is characterized by an unhealthy and dysfunctional dynamic, with the codependent person often prioritizing the needs and desires of others above their own. This may lead to a lack of personal boundaries, difficulty in making decisions, and a constant need for approval and validation from others.
Codependency commonly occurs in relationships where one person struggles with addiction, mental health issues, or other self-destructive behaviors, and the codependent individual enables and reinforces these negative patterns. The codependent person may feel an overpowering sense of responsibility for the well-being of the other person, even at the expense of their own physical, emotional, and mental health.
Some typical signs of codependency include an inability to say no, fear of rejection or abandonment, difficulty expressing emotions and needs, low self-worth, excessive caretaking, and an obsession with controlling the behavior and emotions of others.
Codependency can have detrimental effects on the individuals involved, often leading to feelings of resentment, frustration, and even depression. Treatment for codependency often involves therapy, both individual and group, where the person learns to establish healthy boundaries, regain their sense of self-worth, and develop a healthier way of relating to others.
The word "codependency" is derived from two separate terms: "codependent" and "dependency".
The term "codependent" was coined by psychologists during the mid-20th century. It is derived from the word "dependent", which refers to a person who relies on or is controlled by another. The prefix "co-" in "codependent" indicates a mutual or shared characteristic. Therefore, a codependent person is someone who exhibits patterns of behavior or attitudes that revolve around being excessively reliant on others, to the extent that their own wellbeing is compromised.
The word "dependency" originates from the Latin word "dependere", which means "to hang from". It combines the prefix "de-" (down or away) and "pendere" (to hang). "Dependency" essentially refers to a state of relying or being subordinate to someone or something else.