The spelling of the word "cater cousin" may be confusing to some English speakers. This term, meaning a distant relative, is pronounced /ˈkeɪtə ˈkʌzən/. The "cater" part is easy enough to understand, but the second word is where the complication arises. "Cousin" is spelled with a "c" instead of a "k" because it comes from the Latin "cognatus." Despite the inconsistency in the spelling, we still say /ˈkʌzən/ instead of /ˈkɒzɪn/.
Cater cousin is an idiomatic expression that refers to a person who is related or closely associated to someone, but is not particularly liked or respected by them. The term is primarily used to describe an individual who is considered as an unwanted or unwelcome companion, often due to their behavior, personality, or characteristics that clash with the other person's preferences or expectations.
The origin of the phrase can be traced back to medieval times when it was common to address a person who is a close relative or family member as "cousin". However, "cater" in this context has a negative connotation and implies someone who is obnoxious, bothersome, or disliked. Hence, "cater cousin" serves as a contrasting expression where the close affiliation through kinship is acknowledged, but the person's presence or company is not appreciated.
This term is figuratively used in a variety of contexts, primarily in informal conversations or literature, to depict the relationship dynamics where even though two individuals may share a blood connection or ongoing association, they are not on friendly or welcoming terms. It highlights the irony or discomfort of having a problematic or disliked relative or acquaintance who is constantly around.
The term "cater cousin" has a somewhat obscure etymology. It is believed to have originated in the late 16th century as a corruption of the phrase "quatres cousines", which is French for "four cousins". The exact reason for this corruption is not known. Over time, it evolved into "cater cousin" in English, referring to someone who is closely related or closely acquainted. The use of the term "cousin" here doesn't necessarily imply a blood relationship, but rather denotes familiarity or closeness.